How to Survive Shock and Emotional Overwhelm

Any serious loss, especially if it’s sudden, can be shocking. A serious diagnosis– being blindsided by someone you trusted, job loss, any kind of victimization can overwhelm us like a tsunami. Here’s how to keep your head above the water. 1) No matter how intense the emotional overwhelm is, know that you won’t die from […]

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School Shooters: Insecure, Scared and Craving Power

School shooters crave an outer form of power because they have not been taught how to develop a strong sense self and personal power to fuel and guide the development of their personalities. They dwell on the negative; some glorify brutal monsters like Adolph Hitler, which feeds their sickness. These children are like the lost […]

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Trauma and Resilience

After nearly 20 years in private practice specializing in trauma and resilience, I thought as I watched the news about the “worst mass shooting in modern American history,” that I could easily maintain the detached yet compassionate presence I routinely hold with my clients. Not today. After watching almost an hour of  morning news about […]

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When Parents Criticize: Unintended Consequences, Unintended Damage

There’s a difference between parental criticism and discipline. Discipline, done in a healthy, balanced and consistent manner, is about guidance for children to learn appropriate behavior and values as they also hopefully see their parents model appropriate behavior and values. Parental entitlement, (“Do as I say not as I do”) doesn’t cut it. Parents who bully their children may gain rapid compliance, but their children also learn to bully others to get what they want.

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Gangs and Bullying: A Virulent Societal Plague

Gangs and Bullying: A Virulent Societal Plague © SueHannibal.com  Bullying, whether it’s primarily emotional, physical, racial, cultural, sexually motivated or all of the above, is spreading through the world. Terrorist gangs, better armed and a more lethal version of street gangs, play by similar rules, killing anyone, including cops and rival gang members, to protect […]

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Hoarding: The Metaphors Behind the Madness

  “Eric” a successful businessman in his early 50’s, came to my office burdened with a shameful secret. He reluctantly admitted that no one had been inside his home for over a decade. Unlike many hoarders, Eric was not in denial. He nervously handed me a stack of photographs of his home and garage in […]

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